How to Win Back Your Ex With Common Sense

September 8, 2009 by  
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So, you’re boyfriend, or girlfriend has ended the relationship and moved on. You’re trying to move on too, but you just can’t seem to give up on the relationship. Perhaps you have a sense that your ex still loves you, perhaps you just believe you two belong together. You feel their is still hope for the relationship and want to try one more time to win back your ex.

How to you go about doing that? Where do you start? you probably have some ideas on things that you can do, like sending them love notes, or a love letter, or buy them gifts.

The first thing you need to do is STOP. Take a step back and follow the tips below before you go any further.

First, you need to look at what went wrong, and in particular, what part did you play in the relationship ending. It takes two to make a relationship work, and like it or not, you probably contributed to the breakup.

If after evaluating your contribution to the relationship ending, ask yourself if you are willing to address those issues, or if you even can address those issues..

If you really think you can change, and are committed to doing so, you may have a chance to win back your ex. It’s not a bad idea to talk to your ex and apologize for the things that you had done that caused strain in the relationship. This shows your ex that you cared enough to reflect on what you did wring in the relationship. It also shows a sign of maturity that you were able to face fault and apologize.

During that conversation, do not suggest that they take you back since you have learned your lesson and are promising to change. It’s too early to press them to get back together. Plus, when you don’t go asking to get back together, they will see that you appear to be able to move on.

Stay in touch with your ex, perhaps weekly, for a while. Just give them a quick call to see how they’re doing. Keep the conversation light. Subtly remind them of some of the good times you had together, but don’t go overboard. You just want to create a small spark in their mind and heart related to some special time you had together.

These weekly, and casual, conversations will either lead to a friendship, or you will come to the conclusion that they are not interested in even being friends.

Friendships often lead to more serious relationships. For many relationships, the “love” relationship developed to quickly and the friendship stage was never really developed. Having a strong friendship may be something that your relationship needed and could lead to a stronger love relationship.

The above tips should help you win your ex back, but you need more help that I can provide in a blog post. I suggest you get the detailed step by step Win A Love Back guide.

Winning An Ex Back Without Playing Head Games

February 26, 2009 by  
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When your ex has broken up with you, it’s easy to over react and out of emotion try to use head games to win them back.

You know the head games – going out with other people to try and make them jealous, trying to make them feel guilty for breaking up with you.  Using your common friends to try and make them feel guilty, and having them try to change their mind about breaking up with you.

You may have even gotten this advice from friends, or some relationship experts.  Just so you know, these head games do sometimes work, but if you do win them back by playing these types of games, how strong will your relationship be?  Do you think your relationship will last long term when these types of manipulative games are being played?

Instead, there are other little things you can do to stay in the picture without pursuing them  (which would not be a good thing to do after the breakup).

Call them once a week or so, just to keep in touch and see how they are doing.  Don’t pour your heart out to them and even think about talking about getting back together.  Just be friendly and let them know you were thinking about them and wanted to make sure they were okay.

Call them on important days like their birthday, and perhaps send them a little inexpensive gift or a card.  Again, don’t send a love letter type of card but a friendly “thinking of you” type of card.

Keep in touch by email as you would with other friends.  Send them links to fun things or stories you think they may enjoy.

If you are going to date other people, do it with the right intention.  Don’t date someone if your intent is to make your ex jealous.  Dating to make your ex jealous is immature and not fair to the person you are dating.

In all cases, if you still have intentions of winning your ex back, do not sleep with anyone you are dating.  These things have a tendency of getting back to ex lovers if you have common friends, and that could blow any chance you have of getting back together.

Take this time after the breakup to work on yourself.  Strive to learn from the breakup and to become a better person. By spending time on self improvement, you become more attractive to your ex, and you will be a better mate.

Winning an ex back without playing head games is the right thing to do and will pay off in the long run. When you restore your relationship it will be a healthier, more honest and mature relationship.

For more tips on how your can win your ex back, I recommend THE Win Ex Back Guide.