Get Back at an Ex

September 27, 2009 by  
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I’m sometimes asked by those who have had their hearts broken by a breakup, how can I get back at my ex?

My first question is – “Do you want to try to win back you ex”? If you want to win back your ex, then you need to let go of that anger that wants to “get back at an ex”! You then need to take a cooling off period from your ex and have no contact with them for a period of time.

After that cooling off period, you need to decide if you really do want to try to win them back. If you do, there may still be a chance it can happen, but you need to follow the plan that has helped thousands win an ex back.

If you decide you don’t want to try to win them back, and just want to move on – that’s a good sign that you have discovered some things about you, or about your ex, and you don’t see things working out between you.

If you still want to get back at an ex, I have a great tip for you. Get some help with moving on with your life.

Getting back at your ex will not help you. You may think it will help you get over the anger and move on, but it won’t help. You may feel better for a few minutes, but chances are later on you will feel worse than ever.

Trying to get back at someone, is really another way of stating that you want to hurt someone in some way. This is immature, destructive, and can even be dangerous. Trying to get back at your ex will help you in absolutely no way.

Instead, I suggest you get help with getting over your ex.

Please don’t ever try to get back at an ex, it will not help you and could have terribly negative consequences. Instead, take a step back, realize you are going through a hurtful time just like everyone else in this world has gone through. Hurting after a breakup is a part of life.

If you need help learning how to get over your ex, get the help you need, and move on.

If My Ex Boyfriend Got a Girlfriend, can I Still Win Him Back?

January 10, 2009 by  
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If my ex boyfriend got a girlfriend, can I still win him back?

If your ex boyfriend has a new girlfriend, yes you can still win him back.  But, you need to be patient and handle things correctly.  It can also greatly depend on who broke up with who.

If you broke up with him, it will probably be easier to win him back.  He may have this new girlfriend to fill a void he has with missing you, or he may be trying to make you jealous.  Still, you need to handle things correctly, and I will give you some tips below.

If he broke up with you, it will probably be a little more difficult winning him back and it will probably take more time.  If he broke up with you, there may be a number of different reasons why your ex boyfriend has a new girlfriend.  He may have wanted to date other people, including the girl he is now with.  If you have done something that hurt him, resulting in him breaking up with you, he may be dating to get back at you – he may trying to hurt you. Finally, he may have come to the conclusion that you two are not a good match and he has moved on.

The good news is, in every case, there still is a chance that you can win him back.

First, here are some things you absolutely, positively DO NOT want to do.  You do not want to beg and plead to get back together.  You do not want to promise to change your ways if he’ll just take you back.

And, you cannot even think about going so far as to try and break up the new relationship he might be having.  This type of behavior is immature, appears too needy and will probably drive him away forever.  It will cement in his mind that you are not right for each other.

Do not follow him around on his dates, or show up everywhere you think he and his new girlfriend are going to be.  This is not good for you, and your peace of mind.  Plus it makes you appear to be stalking, which is just creepy.

In the other hand, don’t go out of your way to avoid him.  If you frequent the same places restaurants, clubs, school or whatever don’t stop going there to avoid him.

Instead, the next time you end up in the same place together, when you walk in and see him, acknowledge him.  But instead of going up to him and trying to get his attention, simply say hello and go about your business in another part of the room.

Another technique that can be very powerful, is to tell him that since he’s there, you’ll leave to make him more comfortable.  If he insists that you stay, do stay but move away from him and mingle with other people.  If he says nothing, or doesn’t insist you stay, be nice and polite and simply go.  It may be really hard on you, but that mature, confident, strong behavior will get him thinking.

It’s important to remember at all times how you appear to him.  It’s going to be hard to get him back if you look childish or scheming.

After a week or two, give him a call just to say hello, and to tell him that you were thinking about him.  Ask if he’s doing all right, and a few simple questions like that.  Don’t start pouring your heart out on how you may be struggling and want him back.  If you appear to be moving on, he will have to reflect on if he still wants to restore the relationship with you or not.

If he hasn’t made any moves to indicate he wants to see you, it’s okay to call him every two weeks or so to check in and see how he’s doing.  At some point in time, he will either give you clues that he still has some interest in you, or you will find out that he is no longer interested.

In either case, you should now be in a place were you can handle the situation without too much emotion being involved.

Even if your ex boyfriend has a new girlfriend, you can win him back, you just need to tools to help you.  This winning an ex back guide has helped over 6100 people in 67 countries win their love back – I’m sure it can help you!