Need advice on what to do about getting my ex ex GF back?

March 1, 2009 by  
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carmen1988t asked:


Basically I am hoping that you might be able to help me with a plan of action.
The background to my situation is such. A year ago my ex gf and i broke up, it was my fault since I started talking to my ex gf before her. Nothing happened but my gf couldnt take the thought of loosing me and cut it off before she got hurt again and but still she was devastated by me (understand she was married before and her husband cheated on her, and with me she told me she had loved me more then him). I tried everything I could to get her back but someone introduced her to another guy about a month after the break-up (I guess to help her get over me, since she was hurt so bad) and they have been together ever since. Now about 2 months ago, I heard from her. Appearhently she was looking at my myspace page some, and she started to make contact. She has been telling me alot of things like she wants to be with me and she still loves me and so on (understand this is not a girl who plays around or minces words but puts thought into what she says or does). I have talked with her casually and at times she has brought up our past relationship, including how our “love-life” was, and also asks if I have dates and such. So it is obviously something that she is concerned with and has mentioned to me things like how would it effect me if we got back together knowing that she has been with this bf or questions like what if my ex gf or someone else came along. Now she has told me she wants this but it will take time, she also stated that she was very confused because she loves her BF now and doesnt want to hurt him with her decision. Now we have been talking, but she will only allow for texting (only speaking on the phone once in 6 weeks). Ok, well she suddenly starts becoming a little distant over the last two weeks. So from advice of friends I was instructed to back off and give her some space. So I do but I write her the following email on tuesday morning so she knows i am not giving up or anything:
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I assume that the lapse in communication between us is really your way to give yourself the space and time you had talked about needing for us to be together again.

With that in mind, I am going to (with all my heart) honor that with a hope that you will talk to me when you are ready.

Know I think about you and love you so much.
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Now I havent heard anything back until wednesday night to which she sends me the following email

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Hey! I hope everything is going well. How did Meg handle the funeral? Is she doing okay? I have just been busy working and trying to straighten a few things out. Hope you are doing good. Jess
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So i respond immediately with the follwoing:

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- everything is great. just went under contract on a house. it is NIIIIIIICE! and i am getting a deal too. meg started school today. i am getting things together to start school in a few.
- she didnt go to the funeral. we went to the wake and she couldnt take it another day so we went to “meet the teacher” day and then after we went to the gathering after the burial.
- yep she is ok. that girl can take anything. even her cast doesnt seem to bother or slow her down
- well i hope all is going well with that (referencing the things needing to be straightened out) and you.
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i received another text from her just asking how my daughter and i are doing and saying that she hopes i had a great day. I responded back. and I got another text from her that basically said “sounds good, well i am off to bed. you two have a good night :-)

So i have been receiving some text some e-mails, but basically general in nature. Today I saw on her myspace that her BF is taking her to the gulf, but i got a message from her this morning. that doesnt mean it isnt happening tonight, but i want to send her something that says like what are you doing? why arent you trying like you said you would?

Since then I havent heard anything.
My friends tell me to leave it be. Be a man of your word and give her space. Other have told me it is a good sign she wrote back and even better that she is still asking questions.
I just guess i am wound too tight right now. I love this woman more then she or I know and she hasnt given me a chance to prove to her how 1) sorry i am 2) how it will never happen again 3) how much i love her, and 4) how happy we can be together.

Please advise me. Please guide me. Thank you for all the positive and constructive help.

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Dick C asked:


So my girlfriend of 4-5 months broke up with me probably because of one night where we got angry at each other. She still cares for me and says she feels really bad. I heard many reasons why she broke up, she doesn’t have the same feelings, she lost her feelings, wants to see other people, relationship not working. I haven’t really talked to her for almost a week, and I plan at trying to get back together soon.
She is also very inexperienced, 16, im her first boyfriend.

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monacolegend asked:


I love my girlfriend and she is waiting for me to clear my head and find out exactly what i want. well i am sure this time. only problem now is how do i tell my parents that I am getting back together with her. they are so old fashioned and religious and were part of the problem why i broke up with her. i was married and had an affair with the woman who is my GF. and my parents cant wont see that i am happy with her and we love each other. and she only wants to love and take care of me. i wish my parents would realize that and let me live my own life. and accept that sometimes people get divorced. sure the affair was wrong, but i think that GOD will forgive us. we are very happy and love each other and i think we can be together. i was living with her and then moved out on her with no notice. and she still is fighting to keep me. so that says something. i hope my parents will see that in time. she has never doubted our relationship. so i am making my own decision now. to stay with her.

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shelly asked:


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Jackie_belle asked:


I’m not a bad girl, but everytime me and my bf have a little argument and she finds out she mentions to him that she broke up his last relationship. Almost like she was proud of doing it. What is the point in that now?

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xkelmanx asked:


I broke up with my bf a year ago and I still miss him, is this normal? I want to talk to him, but he also started dating my best friend and I don’t want to ruin their relationship. What would you do?

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December 22, 2008 by  
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Enrique asked:


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laura_1786 asked:


My boyfriend and I have been dating off and on for 2 years. He breaks up with me over the smallest things, then 3 months later we’re back together. We just split up again ’cause he says I’m smothering him and he needs his space. What can I do to get him to have a relationship with me? How do I convince him? What do I say?

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December 13, 2008 by  
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pumpkin asked:


me and my boyfriend have been going out for 10months but i feel that our relationship is falling apart. Every time we argue that’s all we think about doing, we love each other dearly but we just don’t know how to resolve the problem without breaking it off that’s the last thing either of us want to do. We already decided that were not going to….we just need help on the arguments…there stupid!

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Portero#18 asked:


At school a lot of girls keep giving my gf the death glare, and its really bugging her, and im afraid that it will affect our relationship, i found out recentlyy about this and so i haven’tt asked her what she thinks i should do, but before i do i need some advice. oh, FYI, some of the girls are ex’s

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