How to Win Back Your Ex With Common Sense

September 8, 2009 by  
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So, you’re boyfriend, or girlfriend has ended the relationship and moved on. You’re trying to move on too, but you just can’t seem to give up on the relationship. Perhaps you have a sense that your ex still loves you, perhaps you just believe you two belong together. You feel their is still hope for the relationship and want to try one more time to win back your ex.

How to you go about doing that? Where do you start? you probably have some ideas on things that you can do, like sending them love notes, or a love letter, or buy them gifts.

The first thing you need to do is STOP. Take a step back and follow the tips below before you go any further.

First, you need to look at what went wrong, and in particular, what part did you play in the relationship ending. It takes two to make a relationship work, and like it or not, you probably contributed to the breakup.

If after evaluating your contribution to the relationship ending, ask yourself if you are willing to address those issues, or if you even can address those issues..

If you really think you can change, and are committed to doing so, you may have a chance to win back your ex. It’s not a bad idea to talk to your ex and apologize for the things that you had done that caused strain in the relationship. This shows your ex that you cared enough to reflect on what you did wring in the relationship. It also shows a sign of maturity that you were able to face fault and apologize.

During that conversation, do not suggest that they take you back since you have learned your lesson and are promising to change. It’s too early to press them to get back together. Plus, when you don’t go asking to get back together, they will see that you appear to be able to move on.

Stay in touch with your ex, perhaps weekly, for a while. Just give them a quick call to see how they’re doing. Keep the conversation light. Subtly remind them of some of the good times you had together, but don’t go overboard. You just want to create a small spark in their mind and heart related to some special time you had together.

These weekly, and casual, conversations will either lead to a friendship, or you will come to the conclusion that they are not interested in even being friends.

Friendships often lead to more serious relationships. For many relationships, the “love” relationship developed to quickly and the friendship stage was never really developed. Having a strong friendship may be something that your relationship needed and could lead to a stronger love relationship.

The above tips should help you win your ex back, but you need more help that I can provide in a blog post. I suggest you get the detailed step by step Win A Love Back guide.

What to Tell Your GF to Get Back With U

February 28, 2009 by  
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After your girlfriend has broken up with you, you are probably wanting to know what to tell your gf to get back with u.  The best answer to this, is – nothing.  There is probably nothing you can tell her at this time to get her back.

She broke up with you for a reason, and it was probably some action you took that hurt her.  It could have been saying hurtful things to her, it could have been ignoring her, or even cheating on her.  So, anything you say is probably not going to win her back.

What I mean by there is nothing your can tell your gf to get back with u, is that sweet talking her, or sending her a love letter or trying to use love poems to win her back is not going to work.

Instead, you need to understand why she broke up with you, work on making whatever changes you need to make, and then show her, by your actions, that you have changed.

The first action to take is to admit to her your fault in the breakup, what you did wrong and what you should have done differently.  In most cases even a heart felt apology is not going to want her to get back with you, but it’s a good first step.

The next action to take is help her to realize that she wants you back.  I know that sounds like common sense, but many people blow it at this stage.  Even if you’re still hurt, and angry, you have to rise above that.  When you see her you need to be kind, patient and understanding of her needs right now.

Your girlfriend was first attracted to you because of some part of your personality.  Let her experience that part of your personality again.  Let her see the person that she liked being with.

Another important action to take is to really listen to her when she talks to you.  Listen carefully and don’t interrupt.  Let her express herself without you jumping in and telling her how she ought to feel or what she ought to do.

Once you’ve taken these actions, you need to pay attention to any signs she may be giving you.  You may notice her being nicer to you when she sees you.  She might start seeking you out and calling you. These are good signs, but don’t blow it by immediately suggesting you get back together.

Give it time and continue to be the great guy they she wants to be around.  Eventually she will remember why she wanted to be with you in the first place, or she will back off and move on.  In either case, you can know that you did all you could do to win her back.

So, it’s not really about what to tell your gf to get back with u, it’s about your taking action to show her why she should get back with you.

For more in depth information on how you can win your gf back, I recommend the Get My GF Back Guide.

Can I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back

December 22, 2008 by  
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If you’re wondering, “Can I get my ex girlfriend back?” then the breakup probably wasn’t so devastating that you think the relationship can’t be saved.  You’ll have to hope she feels the same way.  If any hurt was caused during the split that you should apologize for, now’s the time to say you’re sorry. Being sorry and sincerely showing it is a good first step.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back by showing my sensitive side?

Well, there’s no guarantee you’ll get back together, but the odds tilt more and more in your favor when you do things right. Show her how much you miss her, and how sorry you are.  Just pay attention to what she does. If your gestures of sorrow only make her angry—she throws away the roses or something dramatic like that, for example—change your tactics until you find that something she responds to.

If flowers or cards frustrate her, for example, maybe that’s because it’s easy to pick up the phone and order flowers or buy a card someone else wrote.  Try putting yourself in her shoes and try to figure out something more appealing. Buy a blank card and write your own verse in it.  It doesn’t have to rhyme, in fact it’s better if it doesn’t.  Try to honestly express how you feel.  Or pick flowers and present her with a bouquet you put together yourself.

A common complaint among women is that men aren’t thoughtful.  Were you thoughtful during the relationship?  Now you might be wondering, can I get my ex girlfriend back by being thoughtful?  Not necessarily, but it’s one more step toward your goal of getting her back.  Every positive thing stacks up, making it easier and easier for her to come back to you. Don’t expect things to happen right away, though.

If you spent your relationship rarely doing thoughtful things, or you only did them in the beginning, she’ll probably doubt the things you do now.  Just be patient, and keep up your efforts. Don’t appear frustrated or angry.  Do the thoughtful things because it feels good to make her happy, not because you’re working toward a goal.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back by dating other women?

If it’s been a long time since the breakup, and you’re still working on being thoughtful, a casual date seems harmless and may make her wish she was your date, but go too far and it could backfire.

Can I get my ex girlfriend back if she has a boyfriend?

The odds are against it, but if you can show her that she’ll be happier with you than the new boyfriend you’ll have a good chance.  Being thoughtful will go a long way toward showing her that.  Even if it seems hopeless, don’t give up.

If it appears she’s moved on, still send her a card you wrote just wishing her a great week.  But don’t look as if you have any expectations.  Your thoughtfulness might really impress her.

One other thing my friend, the points made above, are only just one step in the equation of getting your true love back. The important thing is to have a step by step plan that will lead you in your heartfelt pursuit.

Frankly, that’s what I did when my true love dumped me. I followed a plan authored by T ‘Dub’ Jackson. When my cause was almost hopeless and I was dieing inside, it hauled me up by my bootstraps and helped me get my life’s love back. It’s called “The Magic of Making Up” and you can check it out at: http://www.magicofmakingup.com