Get Your Ex Back Deal With Your Anger First

February 5, 2010 by  
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Get Your Ex Back Deal – With Your Anger First

Getting your ex back is a piece of cake when you really think about it. After all, you are talking about a person that was madly in love with you at one point in your life. Not too long ago you might have thought it was absurd to think that you would ever have to make them fall in love with you again. They probably told you every day that they loved you. Chances are you never left the house without saying goodbye and receiving a kiss. And every night you might have kissed before going to sleep.

But now your life has been turned upside down and where there was once love there is a multitude of emotions. A breakup can literally be an emotional roller coaster. One minute your up and optimistic and the next your down in the dumps.

In order to get to the point where you can even think about getting your ex back it might be necessary to work through some of these emotions so you can be better prepared when the time does come to get back together. After all, you won’t want to unload on your ex with all of these emotions when you are just about to get back together, right?

Use these effective coping techniques to help work through your emotions as you begin your campaign to get your ex back

Writing Letters – If it were twenty years ago I would suggest that you write a letter to your ex and let out all the anger and rage that you have over your breakup on a piece of paper. Once you had poured your heart out about how hurt and angry you were you could either tear the paper to shreds, set it ablaze or save it for a rainy day. If you saved it you could look back and use it to gauge how your feelings and circumstances had changed.

Although this technique still could work today it might be equally effective and perhaps a little easier if you typed out an email to them. Really pour your heart out and let loose with every little thing that has been on your mind. Write about how lonely you are, how poorly you feel you have been treated throughout the breakup or how much you love your partner and all that you did to try to rebuild your relationship. Create a free email account and send your letters to that email address. Just be careful that you don’t send these emails to your ex by mistake and delete them out of your sent items before you get back together.

Yell, Scream, Cry – Yes, yelling, screaming and crying in the solitude of your home can be a very effective way to release these emotions. You will be being true to yourself and what you feel when you outwardly express these emotions in a safe way. Nobody gets hurt so there is no reason to feel guilty. Chances are that after a good screaming match with a picture of your ex you might feel a strange sort of relief… as if you have been cleansed of these emotions that you have been holding inside. Of course, if you live in an apartment or have roommates it might be necessary to do this when nobody is around.

Crying, in itself, has its own healing effect. Crying until you are all “cried out” will leave you feeling renewed and as if a great burden has been lifted from your shoulders. Most women know this (no offense) and many men have at one point or another felt the satisfaction and relief that comes after having a really good cry.

Take it Out Physically – When you feel angry or upset or frustrated with the situation take it out physically on a punching bag or do some other sort of physical exercise. Run, jog or walk as you run everything over in your head. Go ahead! Get angry and work it out physically. Install a chin up bar in the house and any time you feel angry or upset do chin ups, pushup or sit-ups until you are exhausted.

The bonus in this is that before long you’re appearance is going to improve by working out your frustration and anger. This definitely will be a very powerful contributing factor that will help you to get your ex back. When they see you for the first time after some time has passed they will notice the change and see that you’re looking even better than they remembered. How sweet is that?

Use these three helpful coping techniques to work through the anger and frustration that accompanies a breakup and you will be well on your way to creating the foundation necessary to win your ex back.

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How to Win Back Your Ex With Common Sense

September 8, 2009 by  
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So, you’re boyfriend, or girlfriend has ended the relationship and moved on. You’re trying to move on too, but you just can’t seem to give up on the relationship. Perhaps you have a sense that your ex still loves you, perhaps you just believe you two belong together. You feel their is still hope for the relationship and want to try one more time to win back your ex.

How to you go about doing that? Where do you start? you probably have some ideas on things that you can do, like sending them love notes, or a love letter, or buy them gifts.

The first thing you need to do is STOP. Take a step back and follow the tips below before you go any further.

First, you need to look at what went wrong, and in particular, what part did you play in the relationship ending. It takes two to make a relationship work, and like it or not, you probably contributed to the breakup.

If after evaluating your contribution to the relationship ending, ask yourself if you are willing to address those issues, or if you even can address those issues..

If you really think you can change, and are committed to doing so, you may have a chance to win back your ex. It’s not a bad idea to talk to your ex and apologize for the things that you had done that caused strain in the relationship. This shows your ex that you cared enough to reflect on what you did wring in the relationship. It also shows a sign of maturity that you were able to face fault and apologize.

During that conversation, do not suggest that they take you back since you have learned your lesson and are promising to change. It’s too early to press them to get back together. Plus, when you don’t go asking to get back together, they will see that you appear to be able to move on.

Stay in touch with your ex, perhaps weekly, for a while. Just give them a quick call to see how they’re doing. Keep the conversation light. Subtly remind them of some of the good times you had together, but don’t go overboard. You just want to create a small spark in their mind and heart related to some special time you had together.

These weekly, and casual, conversations will either lead to a friendship, or you will come to the conclusion that they are not interested in even being friends.

Friendships often lead to more serious relationships. For many relationships, the “love” relationship developed to quickly and the friendship stage was never really developed. Having a strong friendship may be something that your relationship needed and could lead to a stronger love relationship.

The above tips should help you win your ex back, but you need more help that I can provide in a blog post. I suggest you get the detailed step by step Win A Love Back guide.

Steps to Get Your Ex Back

August 31, 2009 by  
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Knowing how to go about getting your ex back can be a complicated thing. The steps required to get your ex back are not taught in any course, and there are few people that can give you quality advice. Most of the time we will get our ideas on ow to win that ex back from friends, who really have no idea on how to go about it. We get ideas from what we think would work on us, and we get ideas from movies where a lost love has been won back.

In reality getting an ex back is a very complicated thing and you should not attempt to win them back without first following a few common sense steps as outlined below.

First, you need to distance yourself from you ex. This can be difficult, especially if your ex wants to stay in contact with you. But, you must be strong and create that distance so you can start getting beyond the emotion and start thinking clearly. This will also be a sign to your ex that you are strong enough to stand on your own, and bring them to the realization that you don’t “need” them to survive.

Second, do not isolate yourself. Spend some time with your family and friends, for support. Isolating yourself, allows you too much time to stew, dwell in your circumstances and depress you. Spending time with those that care about you, and will lift you up and encourage you.

While spending time with family and friends, ask them what they think went wrong with the downfall of the relationship. You may already think you know what went wrong, but it’s good to get an outside perspective. Be warned, your family and friends will probably tend to blame your ex to help you feel better. You need to let them know that they need to be brutally honest and help you see want went wrong, even if you are at fault. If you really want to know what went wrong, you need to be strong enough to hear the truth.

Your next move is to take what you heard from family and friends, about what caused the breakup, and what you think was behind the breakup. It’s up to you to really understand what went wrong, even if it hurts because you may have been responsible.

Then you need to decide where you want to go from here. Do you still want your ex back? Do you think you and your ex are really compatible? Are you curious about other possible relationships? If you contributed to the breakup, do you need to change some things? Are you willing to work on changing yourself if necessary?

If you are still interested in trying to get your ex back, then your next move is to initiate contact with your ex. You need to be strong, mature and be able to communicate without a lot of emotion. Ask your ex how they are doing, and see where the conversation goes from there. Don’t expect, or even try, to get back together on that call. Stay in touch and suggest doing some things together, and see if the relationship can be built again over time.

These steps should help you get your ex back, but a blog post doesn’t provide enough detail. You should really check out this guide that has helped thousands get back together.

Does My Ex Want To Get Back Together?

December 23, 2008 by  
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If your ex is showing you a little bit of interest, or seems more interested in going out and spending time with you than before, or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to flirt with you, then it’s okay to be a little hopeful but you need to avoid jumping the gun. Are you asking yourself “does my ex want to get back with me”?

These are definitely very common signs that your ex is interested in getting you back. But even if you want to get back with your ex, you should not simply jump into things. The best way to play things is to play hard to get (in moderation), which is probably what your ex will best respond to anyway. If you simply jump into things full force, then you may find your ex pushing you back again. In fact, if your ex is giving indications that he or she wants you back, then the odds are, it was you playing hard to get that led to the renewed interest in the first place.

Usually when you break up with your ex, or he or she breaks up with you, there is a natural level of missing one another, or longing to get back together. This is especially true following a relationship of a year or longer. Your ex is probably going to miss you no matter what, because of how many memories were shared together during this period of time. But there are other emotions that come into play including past regrets. If you are wondering “does my ex want to get back with me” the odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing for the same reasons.

Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it is only a game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back. So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon. And worst of all they  may see this as away to get revenge for some perceived wrong. This is why it is important not to jump the gun, and why you should focus on reading into the situation before you act on it.

This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering “does my ex want to get back with me?”, but the truth is, its better to get a feel for the situation before you act. In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get (in moderation) is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.