Winning An Ex Back Without Playing Head Games

February 26, 2009 by  
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When your ex has broken up with you, it’s easy to over react and out of emotion try to use head games to win them back.

You know the head games – going out with other people to try and make them jealous, trying to make them feel guilty for breaking up with you.  Using your common friends to try and make them feel guilty, and having them try to change their mind about breaking up with you.

You may have even gotten this advice from friends, or some relationship experts.  Just so you know, these head games do sometimes work, but if you do win them back by playing these types of games, how strong will your relationship be?  Do you think your relationship will last long term when these types of manipulative games are being played?

Instead, there are other little things you can do to stay in the picture without pursuing them  (which would not be a good thing to do after the breakup).

Call them once a week or so, just to keep in touch and see how they are doing.  Don’t pour your heart out to them and even think about talking about getting back together.  Just be friendly and let them know you were thinking about them and wanted to make sure they were okay.

Call them on important days like their birthday, and perhaps send them a little inexpensive gift or a card.  Again, don’t send a love letter type of card but a friendly “thinking of you” type of card.

Keep in touch by email as you would with other friends.  Send them links to fun things or stories you think they may enjoy.

If you are going to date other people, do it with the right intention.  Don’t date someone if your intent is to make your ex jealous.  Dating to make your ex jealous is immature and not fair to the person you are dating.

In all cases, if you still have intentions of winning your ex back, do not sleep with anyone you are dating.  These things have a tendency of getting back to ex lovers if you have common friends, and that could blow any chance you have of getting back together.

Take this time after the breakup to work on yourself.  Strive to learn from the breakup and to become a better person. By spending time on self improvement, you become more attractive to your ex, and you will be a better mate.

Winning an ex back without playing head games is the right thing to do and will pay off in the long run. When you restore your relationship it will be a healthier, more honest and mature relationship.

For more tips on how your can win your ex back, I recommend THE Win Ex Back Guide.