Need advice on what to do about getting my ex ex GF back?

March 1, 2009 by  
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carmen1988t asked:


Basically I am hoping that you might be able to help me with a plan of action.
The background to my situation is such. A year ago my ex gf and i broke up, it was my fault since I started talking to my ex gf before her. Nothing happened but my gf couldnt take the thought of loosing me and cut it off before she got hurt again and but still she was devastated by me (understand she was married before and her husband cheated on her, and with me she told me she had loved me more then him). I tried everything I could to get her back but someone introduced her to another guy about a month after the break-up (I guess to help her get over me, since she was hurt so bad) and they have been together ever since. Now about 2 months ago, I heard from her. Appearhently she was looking at my myspace page some, and she started to make contact. She has been telling me alot of things like she wants to be with me and she still loves me and so on (understand this is not a girl who plays around or minces words but puts thought into what she says or does). I have talked with her casually and at times she has brought up our past relationship, including how our “love-life” was, and also asks if I have dates and such. So it is obviously something that she is concerned with and has mentioned to me things like how would it effect me if we got back together knowing that she has been with this bf or questions like what if my ex gf or someone else came along. Now she has told me she wants this but it will take time, she also stated that she was very confused because she loves her BF now and doesnt want to hurt him with her decision. Now we have been talking, but she will only allow for texting (only speaking on the phone once in 6 weeks). Ok, well she suddenly starts becoming a little distant over the last two weeks. So from advice of friends I was instructed to back off and give her some space. So I do but I write her the following email on tuesday morning so she knows i am not giving up or anything:
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I assume that the lapse in communication between us is really your way to give yourself the space and time you had talked about needing for us to be together again.

With that in mind, I am going to (with all my heart) honor that with a hope that you will talk to me when you are ready.

Know I think about you and love you so much.
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Now I havent heard anything back until wednesday night to which she sends me the following email

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Hey! I hope everything is going well. How did Meg handle the funeral? Is she doing okay? I have just been busy working and trying to straighten a few things out. Hope you are doing good. Jess
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So i respond immediately with the follwoing:

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- everything is great. just went under contract on a house. it is NIIIIIIICE! and i am getting a deal too. meg started school today. i am getting things together to start school in a few.
- she didnt go to the funeral. we went to the wake and she couldnt take it another day so we went to “meet the teacher” day and then after we went to the gathering after the burial.
- yep she is ok. that girl can take anything. even her cast doesnt seem to bother or slow her down
- well i hope all is going well with that (referencing the things needing to be straightened out) and you.
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i received another text from her just asking how my daughter and i are doing and saying that she hopes i had a great day. I responded back. and I got another text from her that basically said “sounds good, well i am off to bed. you two have a good night :-)

So i have been receiving some text some e-mails, but basically general in nature. Today I saw on her myspace that her BF is taking her to the gulf, but i got a message from her this morning. that doesnt mean it isnt happening tonight, but i want to send her something that says like what are you doing? why arent you trying like you said you would?

Since then I havent heard anything.
My friends tell me to leave it be. Be a man of your word and give her space. Other have told me it is a good sign she wrote back and even better that she is still asking questions.
I just guess i am wound too tight right now. I love this woman more then she or I know and she hasnt given me a chance to prove to her how 1) sorry i am 2) how it will never happen again 3) how much i love her, and 4) how happy we can be together.

Please advise me. Please guide me. Thank you for all the positive and constructive help.

Josette

Why does my bf’s mom keep mentioning she was responisble for breaking up his previous relationship?

January 15, 2009 by  
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Jackie_belle asked:


I’m not a bad girl, but everytime me and my bf have a little argument and she finds out she mentions to him that she broke up his last relationship. Almost like she was proud of doing it. What is the point in that now?

Daryl

Is it normal to still have feelings for you ex a year after breaking up?

January 1, 2009 by  
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xkelmanx asked:


I broke up with my bf a year ago and I still miss him, is this normal? I want to talk to him, but he also started dating my best friend and I don’t want to ruin their relationship. What would you do?

Corazon

How to break up without breaking a heart?

December 29, 2008 by  
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*~D3$T!NY~* asked:


I want to break up with my bf but i still want us to be close how should i do it??

Shiloh

What is the difference between breaking up and taking a break?

December 26, 2008 by  
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Crystal H asked:


My bf and I love each other very much.

Unfortunately I am his first and he is my first.

I often feel like I haven’t seen enough guys and I’m graduating next year, so I feel skeptical about dating in college because I’d rather date guys I have known for a long time.

I want to see other people and still love my bf at the same time. People are confused about “breaking up” and “taking a break.”

Yvette

How can I keep my bf from breaking up with me?

December 21, 2008 by  
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laura_1786 asked:


My boyfriend and I have been dating off and on for 2 years. He breaks up with me over the smallest things, then 3 months later we’re back together. We just split up again ’cause he says I’m smothering him and he needs his space. What can I do to get him to have a relationship with me? How do I convince him? What do I say?

Gordon

My serious bf has not mentioned anything about Valentines Day?

December 14, 2008 by  
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ineedtoknow asked:


I know he knows it’s coming b/c he was telling me what his friend is getting his gf but thats all he has said about it, nothing about us doing anything. It’s probably just gonna be another day with nothing special huh?

Sherry

Why do people lie when they are breaking up?

November 30, 2008 by  
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what a pickle asked:


I just think it’s so stupid. Today my ex-bf (now) told me that he was breaking up with me because his parents didn’t approve of him dating. Well I know because of his friends that he is going out with someone else that he has liked for a long time. Which fine whatever but lie about it when eventually the truth is going to come out?

Kim

Need help with an ex gf and the possibility of getting back together

September 14, 2008 by  
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Jeff B asked:


My situation is such:
My ex gf after almost a year made contact with me. Now understand that we broke up because I hurt her by talking to another ex gf while with her.
Ok, so I have been praying to be with her again and in June she contacts me, and mid June we start to talk again building up from a Hi txt message to conversations by txt. She really wont do more then txt messages. We talked once on the phone for about 20-30 minutes about 2 weeks ago. Another bit of info is she has a bf, for almost a year now, and she said she doesnt want to hurt him, but she is confused. I am sure she is probably still seeing and talking to him, so of course he is getting more of a chance then I am with her. But when asked directly she said she wants to be with me, loves me, misses me, and thinks about me. She has also told me she wants this but it will take time and we will do this slowly. Also, she is not the type to play games or mince words. She wont say something she doesnt mean and wont do anything either unless thought out.
Ok, now over the last week or so, it seems like she is becoming distant. Txt’ing less, and when I tried calling on friday I got her voice mail and I havent heard from her since (not even a txt).
I dont know what to do. I want her to keep wanting me and I want to get her back. I love her dearly. But I am scared and I dont want to do the wrong thng either.
Some friends have told me to back off and let her come to me now, some have told me to go to her house and show her how I feel, and one has told me to give up (which really isnt an option for me). I have thought about the plusses and minuses of all those options

I am wondering what your advice is and what you think a plan of action should be to hopefully benefit me with my ex getting back together.
Please help
In addition, I have told her how I feel and she is aware of everything. I have told her how I pray for us. How I love her so much. I try to keep her aware of this. Of course not all the time, but it seems that if I do mention something to her, she is 50/50. Meaning she 50% of the time answers me like I said saying she feels the same, and 50% of the time she doesnt say anything. I have talked with her casually and at times she has brought up our past relationship, including how our “love-life” was, and also asks if I have dates and such. So it is obviously something that she is concerned with and has mentioned to me things like how would it effect me if we got back together knowing that she has been with this bf or questions like what if my ex gf or someone else came along. So she has made some serious thought, but now over the last week or so she has started to become distant it feels.
As advised I am giving her time, but after also talking to a couple of female friends I was also advised to sent a message letting her know what I was doing so she didnt think I just up and forgot about her. I hope you can let me know what you think? I wrote the following letter:
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I assume that the lapse in communication between us is really your way to give yourself the space and time you had talked about needing for us to be together again.

With that in mind, I am going to (with all my heart) honor that with a hope that you will talk to me when you are ready.

Know I think about you and love you so much.
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Mark

Around what time did you and your bf/gf start getting freaky?

September 2, 2008 by  
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The RAINMAN asked:


I was just wondering, kind of a poll I guess, when did you and your bf/gf start haing *** during your relationship? Like after what period of time did you guys start doing it.

Jaye

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