My GF’s mom backed into my Mercedes?

May 20, 2008 by  
Filed under Relationship Q & A

mike m asked:

Im a car guy and baby my cars like any other guy i also fix and repair my cars myself. so,here it goes my GF and I have been together for 10.5 month and my GF’s mom isnt to fond of me from the get one night my GF’s mom backed into my car accidently because she was in a rush. she didnt bother calling, texting, emailing or even telling me when she got back!!! when i found out it was her, my gf got involved and said she will do the talking, i said no, i will talk to her….she did it anyway and asked if she hit my car. it went down hill from there… her mom didnt even come to me to tell me herself. about 30min later her mom comes down stair to tell my GF something and doesnt say anything. i had to confront her when she was about to walk away ” about my car”. then she all of he sudden says shes sorry and said to fix it, show her receipts and she will pay me back. i was in shock she said something like that. she walked way. i went to talk to her, i say i want a police report and insurance involve( in a professional manner of course)… she says she has no time to do that right now and said “when i get back( she was going on a trip for a week the next morning) we will take care of it”. and i kept pressing this to do it that night. she kept tying to cut me off as i was speaking…i also gave her an estimate on what my momst mercedes costed to fit ( same damage), but i didnt let her. i finished and she said “i think we should stop talking about this, we will take care of this when i get back”… that night i was getting advice on what to do from MY mom because this is a tough situation, if it were a stranger it would have been standard cut and dry procedure o call the police to get a report and get insurance involved. as i said my gf got involved, so im on the phone with My mom and my Gf starts talking that its not a big deal blah blah blah, and i gave her my explanation on y it should be dont immediatly and she mom didnt have the slightest concern for me or my property and she said somethings that night that she shouldnt have like ” your being you and i **** it” and acted like a 5 year old. the next day(today) we got in another fight because i asked her why isnt your mom talking to me, why is she telling you to tell me what she is going to do or take care of my car. i said i dont want a middle man and i want to talk to ” your mom” because she hit my car with her car. i should be hearing what ever she says from My GF’s moms mouth and its fine if my gf passes new on… the point is i dont feel like im being respected at all by her mom and i dont trust ppl that dont think highly of me. . i called her mom twice the night before to talk about the conversation me and her had about 30 min before. she didnt pick u nor did she call back…. anyway, today after the argument my gf said she wants a break( we all know what that really means). i seriously feel like im being jerked around and being taken advantage of. her mom left me a measly $500 check today for me to get started, but im going be real and i think that thats all im going to see for repair money ( it would probably be around $2500.00 in repairs). now in a sense my GF left me with a broke *** car and now i have even less security that my car is going to be squared away. we will probably get over the break thing, but I myself is getting second thought about my GF from this, what she said and other things. i called her mom and told her how its going to be in a professional manner and i havent heard from her since. her mom also said to get an estimate from a body shop( i will do it) for myself and for her. im thinking if i dont hear from her mom at this point i should do what should have been done in the first place and make a report. im in school and dont have time to pay with my car right now, but i need my car, so i cannot have it in the body shop so im forced to fix it myself. my question is…should i treat this like any other accident? its been a drag lately so should i dump my GF anyway( she said “break”, at this point im thinking just kill it and get on with my life, it not just about my car, its about civil respect from both her mom and and the gf or what ever you wanna call it) ?…..ANY ADVICE??? I know im beat with the relationship that ive been working for with my gf and her mom(she just started to trust and like me, and it means alot to me and now all its lost)
at the same time I genuinly love her and we dont need something like this tearing us apart….back luck on my or our sides=(

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