Input needed about getting back together with gf?
May 27, 2008 by admin
Filed under Relationship Q & A
tiger asked:
My mom is against our relationship and i have to take care of my mom coz she is sick. She might be leaving the country in a couple of months. My ex-gf broke up coz of this. She is from another country but is coming here for summer to do an internship. I am hoping badly that my mom will come around after a while. I know my ex still loves me and I do to. I am planning to move close to her for the summer and take it from there. She told me that she might not be back again with me but she is willing to give me a try. I have talked to my mom about her but she seems adamant about not letting this gal be with me coz of cultural and other differences. But I am hell-bent on being with her. I am kinda low on self-confidence these days due to this. Feels like I would never be able to do anything I want. Please suggest something. Thanks in advance!!!
My mom is getting undergoing checkups and treatments. She is ready to leave for the home country coz she and I think she will be better off there. My ex and I are sort of on a break. I wouldn’t call it a breakup by the way things are going coz she has giving me indications that she is still interested in me. And I have shown my interest in her.
Shanda
My mom is against our relationship and i have to take care of my mom coz she is sick. She might be leaving the country in a couple of months. My ex-gf broke up coz of this. She is from another country but is coming here for summer to do an internship. I am hoping badly that my mom will come around after a while. I know my ex still loves me and I do to. I am planning to move close to her for the summer and take it from there. She told me that she might not be back again with me but she is willing to give me a try. I have talked to my mom about her but she seems adamant about not letting this gal be with me coz of cultural and other differences. But I am hell-bent on being with her. I am kinda low on self-confidence these days due to this. Feels like I would never be able to do anything I want. Please suggest something. Thanks in advance!!!
My mom is getting undergoing checkups and treatments. She is ready to leave for the home country coz she and I think she will be better off there. My ex and I are sort of on a break. I wouldn’t call it a breakup by the way things are going coz she has giving me indications that she is still interested in me. And I have shown my interest in her.
Shanda
Wow this one is interesting. On one hand you have a ex-girlfriend who broke up with you because you are taking care of your sick mother, and on the other hand you have a sick mother who don’t like you ex. Well you might have to tell your ex who want to get back with you that this is your mother the person who gave birth to you who love and support you as well, what kind of person will you be if you turn your back on your mother for her. If she love you she will try to understand that is how some mothers are like that. Love means going through thick and thin no matter what. You might have to have your ex stay your ex because you cant please both women.
Your mother is allowing her own prejudice to cloud her judgement. Do not let her do that to you. You are taking care of her and responsible enough to make your own decisions.
I had a close friend who was in very much the same situation. Her mother did not approve of her boyfriend and threatened to excommunicate her if she stayed with her boyfriend.
I told her to stay with him and that if her mother really loved her there would be no loss of communication. Her mom got sick during the issue and she finally accepted the boyfriend. My friend is now married to the man and her mom died alright with their relationship.
Take care,
Troy