How do you all cope with breaking up or being dumped?
November 29, 2008 by admin
Filed under Relationship Q & A
sasha.lavine asked:
just broke up today and i dont wanna go out or see my friends how do you cope?
Olin
just broke up today and i dont wanna go out or see my friends how do you cope?
Olin
It’s one of the hardest things to do. I still can’t cope with my break-up.
It will end, it just takes some time to get use to the idea. Just be alone and watch tv or something and eventually you will get over it.
Mexican music. hahahahah very funny
I sit at home but you shouldn’t! Go out cuz when my friends drag me out I feel better at least for a lil while.
good luck darlin.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again.
I don’t like seeing my friends or anything either, it really differs from each person. You have to learn how to cope yourself because everyones different, but I’m pretty sure eating helps everyone! get some icecream and watch your favourite disney movie.
good luck, feel better.
oh, well rebound always works for me haha. lol.
Idk I’m still not over my 1st bf (3months ago) haha but i got a rebound and that helped. But its very important that u make sure the guy knows he’s a rebound and that u dont want something serious (unless u do)
Good luck
♥Danea♥
Watch movies that dont have to do with relationships, go out and have fun. Don’t be afraid to move on…It’s healthier to move on than it is to try and deal with the pain.
Good luck;)
try not to think about it, time can heal anything or resolve it too.
Just cry in the bedroom. You may want to listen some ******** music, or studying to make you busy. After a one week, you should be going out with friends since that friends double our joy and divide our grief. After two months, you may want to call him and see how he is doing. I am sure that he does not want you to erase him out of your life. Try becoming friends with him again.
I usually go out, see my friends, and have a stiff drink.
cry for as long as you need to just for TODAY!! smash something. pound on a wall. get all the hurt, anger, humiliation OUT!!
then go see yer friends, get busy! dont dwell on him or it!!
Seriously, you have to find somebody else. Even if he’s just a guy friend. But you need someone to help you get over it. When I broke up with my boyfriend, I had to found another guy who was just a friend and he helped me get over him. Don’t think I’m talking about a rebound ok! Just someone to talk to and hang out with, and who’ll help you get them off your mind. Somebody from the opposite *** though. Not girlfriends. Girlfriends are great, but only someone from the opposite *** can give you another view on what happened, and what they think of the situation. Try it! Good luck!
seeing ur friends and having fun is the best way to get over something..
it keeps ur mind off of things..
go shoppng..
answer yahoo questions if u want to stay home..
bake cakes..
cook food..
google questions u always wanted to know..
prank call
call ur friends
myspace it
facebook it
have fun
listen to upbeat music
look at pictuers of way cuter people
tell urself u deserve better
make ur life better
move on and improve urself as aperson
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I’ve pretty much been sleeping all day, not eating much, and not doing much of anything. It sucks, I know. My bf just broke up with me by email Wednesday morning. Tonight, he writes me this email “maybe I am just not as emotionally mature as you are”. ***? Men suck, I know…..
Listening to music will help, especially songs that you can relate to. Or you could read and get lost in a book. Maybe eat! Stuffing your face with chocolate always helps.
Well, I know this feeling all too well. I’m sure you may not feel like doing much but the best thing for this is to get out of the house and surround yourself with friends or family. People that care about you most will be the ones to support you in a time like this. Please keep your head up and know that everything changes and nothing in life stays the same. Just know that the saying that ‘time heals all wounds’ is a saying to remember. You will pull through this and it will be a great learning experience for you. I hope this helps.
You have to take it a day at at time! If it is an OFFICIAL break up-NEVER getting back together, take this time to focus on YOU! Being with friends and family it better for you! You need to keep yourself BUSY and focused on other things besides him or her! Find this time apart from him and any other desired person to GROW and MATURE and to figure out what you want! I did alot of PRAYING TO GOD and I worked so much to keep my mind off of it! It was so hard for me. I cried EVERY single day and night for about 3 months straight! And I even cried after that, but it gets better over time! It is true when you hear that time heals (all) wounds! Please dont call him, message him, text him, myspace him, visit him, anything! Stay away from him and let him see what he is missing. If you continue to reach out to him he will continue to diss you (espeically if he was the one who broke it off)! Going straight into another serious r.ship is a BAD IDEA. Stay away from those, rebounds are ok, but not suggested. Best of luck hun!
what i do is…. talk to my friends text them or what ever
-i also will listen to some music to keep it off my mind… sing along that helps
-just crying and getting it out helps
-taking a nap sleeping taking it off your mind
-find a different guy… flirt with another guy… hang out, if hes all you think about then have your friends help you, you cant just stay away from them!!!
-read/do a hobby!
Thankfully I’ve only had one bad breakup, and I was a teenager at the time, but this is what I remember:
I remember spending days on the couch crying and thinking life was going end. For weeks, maybe even months, I had the blues and life just didn’t seem “right”. But, slowly but surely, life moves on and I felt better about myself and knew that I would be OK by myself. For maybe a year or so afterward, I would get very nervous if I ran into “him” out in town and do everything to avoid him. Even now, 10 years later, it’s still awkward seeing him even though I’m totally in a different place of my life and completely in love with my hubby. But, it’s hard to get over that first breakup and first love.
My advice: rent some movies, buy a ton of junk food and just veg out all weekend.
Are you one of those whose life and joy depends on a relationship? Give me a break!!! Life is a lot more than feeling, looking, hearing and talking to another two legged individual. Life is air, dreams, friends, music, dancing, singing, shopping, studying, working, exercising, doing good for others, praising God….. I learned whenever I got dumped to use it as a stepping stone to become wiser, better and not try to make the same stupid choice I did before if only I had an ounce of brain in my head. Laugh out loud right now at yourself, and I mean it. Just laugh hysterically, call your friends and plan on a nice gathering, have a joke contest, and do not talk about relationships. You chose the one who dumped you so cheer up and laugh again and again. Life is a joke, if you look at it. Tomorrow you will still be laughing, I guarantee
I was heartbroken when I broke up with my ex. For the first week I just moped around and cried and didnt want to do anything / see anyone.
My sister was really good and did things for me as a distraction. Like organise a little picnic and a dvd night for me.
She let me cry on her shoulder and listended when I got mad and said a lot of bad things about the ex.
The pain will dull in time, just make sure you look after yourself. Try and get sleep, eat reasonably decent food, do things you find relaxing.
Down the track you will want to see your friends again
First of all, I am sorry to hear that you had your heart broken today. Do not force and rush yourself to get over the break up. You have the right to feel bad or even cry for a while. Only time can mend a broken heart. For now, juts lay down your bed, take a warm bath, relax and just pamper yourself. Anything that will make you feel good is advisable for now..besides, you deserve to be pampered.
Mending a broken heart is by no means an impossible mission, even though it feels absolutely devastating when all of a sudden you and the person you truly love are no longer together. Time is able to heal a lot of of your emotional wounds, but the most important aspect is your own attitude.