getting back together with an ex gf?
August 14, 2008 by admin
Filed under Relationship Q & A
The collector asked:
so i may possibly be getting back with my ex. We broke up a few months back due to problems between us. I was wondering.. what is the best thing to do on a “first date” I mean.. i dont know what to do. I want things to be like they used to be.. but at the same time you cant rush the feelings. Give me some pointers please.
Maurine
so i may possibly be getting back with my ex. We broke up a few months back due to problems between us. I was wondering.. what is the best thing to do on a “first date” I mean.. i dont know what to do. I want things to be like they used to be.. but at the same time you cant rush the feelings. Give me some pointers please.
Maurine
RUN thats why their called EX’s
well my opinon is not to back out with them unless it wasent your falt
i have zero pointers to give to you. i’ve never went back to any of my exes..once its over , its over
For the first few dates I would just get to know each other again. Make sure that you both really want to be together because you really like eachother, not just because you are comfortable with each other and don’t want to be alone. (its an easy trap to fall into)
Go out for coffee, take a walk, do something you mutually enjoy (like go to a museum).
Don’t get really physical at first even though it may be tempting. That will make you not think clearly. If you really love each other then there will be pleanty of time for that later. It is better to go out to public places for the first few dates, as opposed to watching a movie at home where it will be tempting to be physical.
i’ve gotten back with one of my exes… many times.. and this time it took a turn for the worse… yes we love each other but he can’t let go of the past…
you need to ask yourself if you’re both really going to be able to let go of all the bad things that happened before to cause the problems that made you break up…
my problem is my ex can’t get over things and never has and we haven’t dated in 5 years! and he still is not over things even though he promised he was… we just broke up monday and arent talking so like i said be sure the problems are worth fixing otherwise you’re just going to end up hurting each other all over again..
Take her to fun, romantic places where you both went when you where together its going to bring up past memories and you can make new memories too or go somewhere you both have never gone before. Just take it slow and although you want things to be like they use to be some things might change. Also make sure whatever the reason that broke up you and your ex is resolved so doesn’t get in the way of your new relationship with her.
all this depends on why you broke up in the first place. if things were so great (from both points of view) the way they “used to be”, would there have ever been a breakup? i know it can be done, but i’m like the other guys here, it’s very difficult to go back & really make it work.