Win Her Back and Knowing When to Back Off
January 27, 2010 by admin
Filed under Get Your Girlfriend Back
Win Her Back – Knowing When to Back Off
It is easy to get excited when the opportunity presents itself and the time comes when your ex gets back in touch with you. Caution is the word for the day though if you want to get your ex back and win her heart once again. How you handle things during this critical stage can make or break your relationship and you don’t want to screw things up and wind up worse off than you were before your ex started speaking with you again, right?
It is easy to allow your excitement to cloud your thinking and to actually destroy the progress that you have made with your well meaning intentions. A good rule of thumb should be that if your ex begins to back off you should, yourself, back off also.
It may be difficult for you to discern when things are about to go awry and know what to do. If, for instance, she doesn’t call when she said that she would, don’t begin to call her to check on her. Instead, patiently wait for her to re-initiate contact with you. If you don’t hear anything for a couple of days it is ok to send her a text message or an email asking if she is ok. The exception to this is if you are dealing with a woman who is infamous for doing this… telling you that she will call you yet never does. Never mention that she said that she was going to call but instead make your contact a simple check in to see how she is doing.
If you make plans to meet and she doesn’t show up resist the urge to call her and ask her what happened. Allow her the opportunity to re-initiate contact with you. Patiently remain silent and allow her to be the one to come to you if things have been friendly and cordial as the two of you work through getting back together.
It is a big step for a woman to change her mind and go back to someone that she has broken up with. Often doubt begins to creep in and she might get a little flipped out. She will have times when she is afraid of making that decision to get back together. Give her time and be patient with her. Depending upon the reasons why you broke up and how the breakup has gone, it may take a while for her to trust you again and really commit to the relationship again. You are on the right track though and taking two steps forward and one step back isn’t uncommon at all.
What are some other signs that she is beginning to back off or that things are about to go wrong again? Each woman is a little bit different but try to stay attuned to her body language, tone of voice, periods of silence and if you feel as if she is becoming critical and things are leading towards an argument. Often people will almost “pick” a fight in order to prove that things aren’t going to work out to avoid intimacy.
If you begin to pick up on any of these warning signs it might be a good time to suddenly become busy or find the need to remove yourself from the situation. If you are on the phone you can end the conversation by saying that you need to go but if you are meeting in person this might be a little more challenging. Honesty is always the best policy and telling her that you really should run and that it was nice to see her again is short, sweet, to the point and honest.
Always end things on a good note, even if it’s only a five minute conversation, and given some time your ex may see that you don’t want to argue with her and that you’re not pushing her or trying to control the situation. Eventually, things will begin to fall into place and your backing off any time there is tension will begin to bring about a change in her slowly but surely.
People will talk to me, but i just don’t have something good to reply with that doesn’t sound dumb. I can’t come up with any good comebacks, and i don’t know. What do you do to help you converse better?
Before you go misty eyed and accept the fact your girl is gone forever I am here to tell you that you can get her back with only a few changes to your approach! Don’t let your girlfriend and love of your life slip out of your life without giving it your all.
win her back and know when to back off, yes, you are right.
I was actually sad that he didnt text me for my bday which was on sunday.. I wasnt expecting a whole romance novel ..just a ” hey happy-bday” and that would have been enough for me.
i just don’t have something good to reply with that doesn’t sound dumb. I can’t come up with any good comebacks, and i don’t know. What do you do to help you converse better?
I agree to the title of this post, of course to the whole post. Every man should know about the time they need to back off, or else they will worsen more the situation. That is not good.
.just a ” hey happy-bday” and that would have been enough for me.
that’s very important to know, when to go on and when to back off, sometimes backing off will make situation better. always stay cool.
i love the ideas that you imparted to us and your article is interesting to read.
getting our ex back is something that requires some work and some effort with lots of patience!
I agree on the title of this post, needless to say on the total submit. Each and every man need to know in regards to the time they need to back off, or else they are going to worsen more the situation. That just isn’t fine.
Each and every man need to know in regards to the time they need to back off, or else they are going to worsen more the situation. That just isn’t fine.
I agree to the title of this post,everyone should know about the time they need to back off.
that’s very important to know, when to go on and when to back off, sometimes backing off will make situation better. always stay cool.
I just don’t have something good to reply with that doesn’t sound dumb. I can’t come up with any good comebacks, and i don’t know. What do you do to help you converse better?
good good study day day up.come on.you can better.
Win Her Back – Knowing When to Back Off
Excellent article. Really took me time to read all the comments, but I really enjoyed the article. It proved to be Very helpful to me and I am sure to all the commenters here! It is always good when you can not only be informed, but also entertained! Many thanks for sharing this valuable information about the right the time to back off.
It’s very hard to get all one smoothly after re back.
What you said is wise ,when she is impatient,don’t ask anything ,just leave her alone and wait for her to contact you re-initiate.
Pretty cool post, thanks for sharing that