What to Tell Your GF to Get Back With U
February 28, 2009 by admin
Filed under Get Your Girlfriend Back
After your girlfriend has broken up with you, you are probably wanting to know what to tell your gf to get back with u. The best answer to this, is – nothing. There is probably nothing you can tell her at this time to get her back.
She broke up with you for a reason, and it was probably some action you took that hurt her. It could have been saying hurtful things to her, it could have been ignoring her, or even cheating on her. So, anything you say is probably not going to win her back.
What I mean by there is nothing your can tell your gf to get back with u, is that sweet talking her, or sending her a love letter or trying to use love poems to win her back is not going to work.
Instead, you need to understand why she broke up with you, work on making whatever changes you need to make, and then show her, by your actions, that you have changed.
The first action to take is to admit to her your fault in the breakup, what you did wrong and what you should have done differently. In most cases even a heart felt apology is not going to want her to get back with you, but it’s a good first step.
The next action to take is help her to realize that she wants you back. I know that sounds like common sense, but many people blow it at this stage. Even if you’re still hurt, and angry, you have to rise above that. When you see her you need to be kind, patient and understanding of her needs right now.
Your girlfriend was first attracted to you because of some part of your personality. Let her experience that part of your personality again. Let her see the person that she liked being with.
Another important action to take is to really listen to her when she talks to you. Listen carefully and don’t interrupt. Let her express herself without you jumping in and telling her how she ought to feel or what she ought to do.
Once you’ve taken these actions, you need to pay attention to any signs she may be giving you. You may notice her being nicer to you when she sees you. She might start seeking you out and calling you. These are good signs, but don’t blow it by immediately suggesting you get back together.
Give it time and continue to be the great guy they she wants to be around. Eventually she will remember why she wanted to be with you in the first place, or she will back off and move on. In either case, you can know that you did all you could do to win her back.
So, it’s not really about what to tell your gf to get back with u, it’s about your taking action to show her why she should get back with you.
For more in depth information on how you can win your gf back, I recommend the Get My GF Back Guide.
Some good points. I think that the most key part of getting back together with your Ex is to really remind her why she fell in love with you in the first place. Such a small situation or action can really trigger those warm early memories flooding back.
Nice tips. I’d prefer to just let it slide personally. No point in chasing after old fish.
I think it’s very important NOT to beg, plead, cry and act like the world is coming to an end since your ex has broken up with you. They don’t need to feel like they are your complete world.
I think the most important think is to get out from her life and let her think what are you doing. If she loves you, she wouldn’t let you go and will come back to you.
I think the biggest mistake guys make is trying to force the situation. The harder they try, the more she’s going to resist. By being impatient and wanting to “fix things” right away, they end up driving her further away.
Jamie
some good points. The worst thing is to act desperate by making a ton of phone calls etc. Don’t be a stalker. Get your own life for a while and take a break. She’ll notice
I love the topic:)
Base on experience well what I did is just ignore her I give her freedom, no phone calls, no text etc.. totally no communications and then suddenly after a month she try to text and call and win me back? I think one way or another if she really love you then for sure she will come back, it makes two to tango so if there is chance you back together then do your best and communicate well, if she don’t come back goes move on there is more life waiting for you
Plus, if you actually “got” someone to get back with you, then wouldn’t you always be feeling paranoid that they would want to break up with you again? There is absolutely no reason to be in a relationship that is not mutual, so don’t beg people to get back together with you!
It depends on circumstances I believe. It can also happen that your gf cheated on you and met someone else, hence want to break up with you, so telling her to get back to you isn’t a good idea. Although it’s not easy, you should turn the page and move on. Most of the times, it won’t be the same in case of a reconciliation.
Yes, the article seems to be true to an extent.
You need to understand the whole situation rather than only being emotional and be reasonable with that.
and of course, even you yourself think that you haven’t done everything wrong. yet, your partner may have different perspective to view situation. so you can’t blame as we all have different perspective and for everyone good and bad is something different.
If you and your gf are destined to be together you’ll be back whatever happens.
You’re right in that you can’t argue with a girl who’s already decided to break up with you. As you beg and plead with her to reconsider, she’ll only see it as opposition… one last disagreement the two of you had. Instead, agreeing with the break up is the definite way to go.
Once you can let go of your broken relationship, you can start moving forward toward starting a new future with her. Getting your ex back successfully is an acquired skill, just like anything else. There are special methods and techniques you can use to bring her around, all you need to is learn what they are.
Good point is to really investigate why people start dating and then being as partners… Think about if you were serious or had a backdoor image in the back of your head. If you were serious, I am sure you would do anything to get your ex back…So go and ask, no if no buts…
Jana
Good points, begging never works. If it’s meant to be it’ll happen.
I agree with most points but all situations are different and therefore there isnt really a generic piece of advice. For example if your girlfriend was needy and broke up with you because you didnt pay her enough attention and she breaks up to see if that proves her point or not. Has anyone experienced that before?
Thnaks for your nice tips. I think it will help to get back my GF.
on my point of view, though it’s not easy but most of the times, it won’t be the same in case of a reconciliation. as per the contents definitely it will help some part to any person to get back GF.thanks for sharing such valuable tips is this.
If you broke up with your spouse because of YOU cheating, then you should definitely volunteer to go to marriage counseling and accept any compromises she wants you to do.
as per the content i just say once you can let go of your broken relationship, you can start moving forward toward starting a new future with your GF. Getting your ex back successfully is an acquired skill, just like anything else. thanks for sharing.