Winning An Ex Back Without Playing Head Games
February 26, 2009 by admin
Filed under Get Your Ex Back
When your ex has broken up with you, it’s easy to over react and out of emotion try to use head games to win them back.
You know the head games – going out with other people to try and make them jealous, trying to make them feel guilty for breaking up with you. Using your common friends to try and make them feel guilty, and having them try to change their mind about breaking up with you.
You may have even gotten this advice from friends, or some relationship experts. Just so you know, these head games do sometimes work, but if you do win them back by playing these types of games, how strong will your relationship be? Do you think your relationship will last long term when these types of manipulative games are being played?
Instead, there are other little things you can do to stay in the picture without pursuing them (which would not be a good thing to do after the breakup).
Call them once a week or so, just to keep in touch and see how they are doing. Don’t pour your heart out to them and even think about talking about getting back together. Just be friendly and let them know you were thinking about them and wanted to make sure they were okay.
Call them on important days like their birthday, and perhaps send them a little inexpensive gift or a card. Again, don’t send a love letter type of card but a friendly “thinking of you” type of card.
Keep in touch by email as you would with other friends. Send them links to fun things or stories you think they may enjoy.
If you are going to date other people, do it with the right intention. Don’t date someone if your intent is to make your ex jealous. Dating to make your ex jealous is immature and not fair to the person you are dating.
In all cases, if you still have intentions of winning your ex back, do not sleep with anyone you are dating. These things have a tendency of getting back to ex lovers if you have common friends, and that could blow any chance you have of getting back together.
Take this time after the breakup to work on yourself. Strive to learn from the breakup and to become a better person. By spending time on self improvement, you become more attractive to your ex, and you will be a better mate.
Winning an ex back without playing head games is the right thing to do and will pay off in the long run. When you restore your relationship it will be a healthier, more honest and mature relationship.
For more tips on how your can win your ex back, I recommend THE Win Ex Back Guide.
Great tips, yes mind games can work against you. Sometimes, an ex may just be looking for a breather, so give them the space they need.
I 100% agree with you when you say “…if you do win them back by playing these types of games, how strong will your relationship be? Do you think your relationship will last long term when these types of manipulative games are being played?…”
The strength of any relationship lies in the very foundation on which it was built. In order for a relationship to work in the long run, it should certainly be built on love and understanding rather than manipulation.
By reading your post i came up with some conclusions that will going to get my Ex back as i actually going through a pain of having breakup and i still love him allot, i just want him back in my life, always prays to god for him, I will try to utilize these points and will going to see whether it will going to work or not….
Any ways thanks for the lovely support….
I think sometimes you have to evaluate if winning someone back is right for you even if you want to get back together with them. Obviously you separated for a reason, and perhaps time apart is really a blessing in disguise.
I also think that playing head games will never work out in the long run. You may get a hit-and-run success sometimes, but that is all.
Hi,
very nice post.I agree that you need to be yourself for geeting your ex back don’t play the head game wit her.
Thanks for sharing.
relationship is not a game.you should take proper care of your relationship by trust,believes,understanding,care.thanks for sharing this post with the readers.looking forward for more updates.
It is a nice article plenty of common sense. The big problem is that in these kind of situations it is not easy to deal with emotions, hard feellings, and some times wishes for revenge.
well thanks for sharing this useful post wit the readers you mentioned useful points here.but sometimes we have to use our mind to get ex back.
I usually give us time to heal without really becoming a pest. i will tell her that i respect the need for us to have some space and rethink our relationship.
Every relationship needs to retain some independence between each person. ‘Let there be space in your togetherness’ Breaking up or divorce can be avoided if each person respects and maintains their partners wishes from the start.
Thanks for sharing these tips, some great advice! I am going to forward these over to a friend of mine who is going through a break-up right now. I hope these will work for him.
There are certainly a lot of details like that to take into consideration. That is a great point to bring up. I offer the thoughts above as general inspiration but clearly there are questions like the one you bring up where the most important thing will be working in honest good faith. I don?t know if best practices have emerged around things like that, but I am sure that your job is clearly identified as a fair game.
Well, I guess that is so true. You bet most people can relate to this especially when they are on ythe verge of breaking up. I have already set myself free from relationships for more than a year now and I cannot say if I want my ex back. However, I am interested over someone and yet, I do not have the willfulness to fight for us. Thanks for this page. More power!
Nice site you have!
lol,thats weird I can’t believe I can just get her back that easily,I will buy the ebook right away