How to Win Back Your Ex With Common Sense
September 8, 2009 by admin
Filed under Get Your Ex Back
So, you’re boyfriend, or girlfriend has ended the relationship and moved on. You’re trying to move on too, but you just can’t seem to give up on the relationship. Perhaps you have a sense that your ex still loves you, perhaps you just believe you two belong together. You feel their is still hope for the relationship and want to try one more time to win back your ex.
How to you go about doing that? Where do you start? you probably have some ideas on things that you can do, like sending them love notes, or a love letter, or buy them gifts.
The first thing you need to do is STOP. Take a step back and follow the tips below before you go any further.
First, you need to look at what went wrong, and in particular, what part did you play in the relationship ending. It takes two to make a relationship work, and like it or not, you probably contributed to the breakup.
If after evaluating your contribution to the relationship ending, ask yourself if you are willing to address those issues, or if you even can address those issues..
If you really think you can change, and are committed to doing so, you may have a chance to win back your ex. It’s not a bad idea to talk to your ex and apologize for the things that you had done that caused strain in the relationship. This shows your ex that you cared enough to reflect on what you did wring in the relationship. It also shows a sign of maturity that you were able to face fault and apologize.
During that conversation, do not suggest that they take you back since you have learned your lesson and are promising to change. It’s too early to press them to get back together. Plus, when you don’t go asking to get back together, they will see that you appear to be able to move on.
Stay in touch with your ex, perhaps weekly, for a while. Just give them a quick call to see how they’re doing. Keep the conversation light. Subtly remind them of some of the good times you had together, but don’t go overboard. You just want to create a small spark in their mind and heart related to some special time you had together.
These weekly, and casual, conversations will either lead to a friendship, or you will come to the conclusion that they are not interested in even being friends.
Friendships often lead to more serious relationships. For many relationships, the “love” relationship developed to quickly and the friendship stage was never really developed. Having a strong friendship may be something that your relationship needed and could lead to a stronger love relationship.
The above tips should help you win your ex back, but you need more help that I can provide in a blog post. I suggest you get the detailed step by step Win A Love Back guide.
Staying in touch with your ex immediately after the break up is not a good idea. You need to give her time and space, so she misses you. Your exgirlfriend needs to see what life will be like without you – this will jar her into wanting you back. Until you show her this, she’s not likely to reverse the break up.
Keeping contact at a minimum is necessary, especially in the beginning. After that, you need to follow a step by step plan to get back your ex girlfriend.
this is really a great article, i would say.it will help me a lot.wonderful tips given. thanks.
Excellent article. It was helpful and informative. hope to see more greats posts like this.
nice, it`s enjoyable…but in my opinion when you ending a relationship just leave.
If your ex has left you then the last thing that he or she will want is to see you, thats the whole point why they left, because they no longer want to be with you.
Clearly you are no longer what they are looking for in a partner. The only way to get your ex back is to become the person that they are looking for. This is not going to happen in a week or 2. This is too short a time for your ex to believe that you have changed, and they will know that you are just putting up an act. It may sound cold and calculating, but in order to get your ex back you will need a well thought out plan which leaves out the emotions and feelings that you may be having over the break up.
Jenny
I think you gave good advice. It is optimistic yet has basis. Well done. Your article can help a lot of confused and depressed people.
Aggressiveness is not a way to get an ex back, great post! Pressurizing your ex to come back to you will only frighten them away from you
You are very right. After one year, me and my girlfriend broke up, but we agreed to remain best friends. And that is the key to win someone back. From friends to lovers is a very small step.
This was a good article, I’ll have to bookmark this one!
well it all depends on why did you breakup in the first place..cause to win someone back its something to think about..nice and useful article
Hi, nice post. I like it as its added to my knowledge.
Thanks for it.
Yes getting an ex back is a matter of using common sense than your emotional heart. You should stay calm and focused on what you want to say. Using common sense to talk your way out to win back your ex is important!
time and distance is the best when you finished a relationship. During that time you’ll know if you love that person yet.
When the moment it happens you are so devastated and you cannot even think of anything else in your life right now. Everyone needs someone to talk to and to know what to do about it. But of course if a breakup is what you wanted then it won’t be hard for you to go on with your life.
I agree that it will do you both some good if you kept some distance immediately after the breakup. You will be surprised at how much you can achieve when you allow each other time to heal and rethink your relationship. going back too soon might make you look desperate and you dont want that.
Time apart is a good thing.
You should at first, keep a clear head, don’t do anything stupid(Ryan Jenkins) and go hang out with people who really care for you like family or friends. Give her/him a call/text a few days later to see what their up to.
Changing yourself can be very hard to do permanently. Its easy to do for a short while but after getting comfortable again and getting back to the swing of things most people will revert to their old (bad?) habits.
Lots of ex’s will be well aware of this and not too many people believe the line “but I’ve changed” – if you can genuinely tell youve changed you shouldnt need to use this line!
The main fear is that whether your partner can sustain it or not, whether he or she would be able to bear the pain or not. But, if you could just make him/her understand that your relationship is just not working then it will be good for both of you to be apart.
Nice post, really when trying to get ex back you should not chase your ex by pursuing your ex’s, sending thousands of texts, call at odd hours of the day,etc. This makes you look desperate! You should rather play games with her that make her come crawling to you
Excellent ideas here, have emailed my mum so expect a big reply!!