Knowing how to go about getting your ex back can be a complicated thing. The steps required to get your ex back are not taught in any course, and there are few people that can give you quality advice. Most of the time we will get our ideas on ow to win that ex back from friends, who really have no idea on how to go about it. We get ideas from what we think would work on us, and we get ideas from movies where a lost love has been won back.
In reality getting an ex back is a very complicated thing and you should not attempt to win them back without first following a few common sense steps as outlined below.
First, you need to distance yourself from you ex. This can be difficult, especially if your ex wants to stay in contact with you. But, you must be strong and create that distance so you can start getting beyond the emotion and start thinking clearly. This will also be a sign to your ex that you are strong enough to stand on your own, and bring them to the realization that you don’t “need” them to survive.
Second, do not isolate yourself. Spend some time with your family and friends, for support. Isolating yourself, allows you too much time to stew, dwell in your circumstances and depress you. Spending time with those that care about you, and will lift you up and encourage you.
While spending time with family and friends, ask them what they think went wrong with the downfall of the relationship. You may already think you know what went wrong, but it’s good to get an outside perspective. Be warned, your family and friends will probably tend to blame your ex to help you feel better. You need to let them know that they need to be brutally honest and help you see want went wrong, even if you are at fault. If you really want to know what went wrong, you need to be strong enough to hear the truth.
Your next move is to take what you heard from family and friends, about what caused the breakup, and what you think was behind the breakup. It’s up to you to really understand what went wrong, even if it hurts because you may have been responsible.
Then you need to decide where you want to go from here. Do you still want your ex back? Do you think you and your ex are really compatible? Are you curious about other possible relationships? If you contributed to the breakup, do you need to change some things? Are you willing to work on changing yourself if necessary?
If you are still interested in trying to get your ex back, then your next move is to initiate contact with your ex. You need to be strong, mature and be able to communicate without a lot of emotion. Ask your ex how they are doing, and see where the conversation goes from there. Don’t expect, or even try, to get back together on that call. Stay in touch and suggest doing some things together, and see if the relationship can be built again over time.
These steps should help you get your ex back, but a blog post doesn’t provide enough detail. You should really check out this guide that has helped thousands get back together.